A Scary Thought

I have had the privilege lately of working with a few young couples that are preparing for marriage. They have all seemed so happy and excited to begin this new adventure in their lives; to take that next step in their relationship that will most likely change their lives forever. I can’t help but be excited for them as I watch them lovingly interact with one another, but I also can’t help but wonder if they really understand the commitment and sacrifice it will take to go the distance.

I figure twenty five years of marriage has to teach you something so although I have little wisdom on what makes for a perfectly successful marriage, I do have a truck load of wisdom for what not to do and what doesn’t work. All of which I have learned via the hard way. I was told once that I should write a book on all the things that just don't work, I tried them all. I also know that every couple is different and what works for one doesn’t necessarily mean it will work for another and visa versa, but I do think there are a few essentials that no successful relationship can survive without. When asked what is the most important ingredient in keeping a marriage alive and well, I would have to say good communication ranks high on the list. Learning how to communicate effectively can be a challenge but I can tell you it is well worth the extra effort and beats the guessing and mind reading techniques that all married couples tend to use sometimes.
I’m sure in theory these couples are all willing to sacrifice themselves and their own agenda’s for each other but down the road when the fluffies are gone, the blinders fall off and real life takes over, which ones will be willing to truly love even when it costs them everything, Just a thought........that sometimes scares me.