Ain't it the truth. It just bothers me that you posted aman talking about dignity....nope!! Not in this family. He has none. A shame that a man seems to lose his mind at a certain stage in life. The choices they make are so painfull for everyone involved. To have to live with the mistakes that other's make and pay the price for his mistakes is absolutely not acceptable. The loss does not just include monetary and emotional , but living in a community that "knows" , can be detrimental to my children daily. I have become a recluse because of his actions. I have fear to face ,my old customer's because of the shame and disgust of his choices. To find my own feet again aftr 25 year's is a huge effort and strain. There is light at the end of the tunnel, by my own hand and my own efforts and actions. I thank God for the strenght and the wisdom and the support to walk me through it all. I have found strength in old friends and new friends and the idea of "pay ot forward" , is so close to my heart. I am grateful everyday. So many people have come forward with information, loving hands , help and advise.Hard on the pride to ask and accept the help. It could have been worse, I know. BUT, it is still hard to have to deal with the "concrete boots" on my feet everyday. By no choice of my own, someone changed the rules and the agenda with out sending me the "memo"!!!!
Well, if a man has no dignity to begin with then he won't have any when he moves on either. I feel your pain and can empathize. There are so many of us in the same boat; 25-30 years of giving your life to someone, just to have them throw it all back in your face. It's ok, you have friends around you who care. You need to come to my Friday night girls night, there's a few of us going through it. We have fun together almost every Friday. There are others who join us but we all have our own set of issues and we support one another and plan on doing what ever is necessary to drag each other through the difficult times we all face. If you're ever interested let me know!
AS a Friday Night Girl, I have to say that the merits of having others to share with are countless. Sadly, we are all in the same boat. Happily we are all in the same boat. It is bitter sweet. Sad because we have to experience these grievous actions and happily because we have each other. There is one concensus though! That regardless of the reason that a spouse can up and leave their partner of many years and cause so much devastation in their wake, they shoud not be allowed to get away with it without paying the consequences. Why women can go through Menopause and still retain their dignity while men go through MEN-O-PAWS and strip us of it is a crime in itself.
Chin up and seek solace in the support of fellow sufferers. Do not feel shame, it is not yours to bear. Stay true to your moral fibre and you will get through this and maybe even be thankful for it. And that's all I have to say about that...for now.
Rhonda, YOU brought this up. Not us. This certainly looks like a man-bashing place in this comments section. Okay then. I won't talk about it anymore either, okay? xo
Ain't it the truth. It just bothers me that you posted aman talking about dignity....nope!! Not in this family. He has none.
ReplyDeleteA shame that a man seems to lose his mind at a certain stage in life. The choices they make are so painfull for everyone involved. To have to live with the mistakes that other's make and pay the price for his mistakes is absolutely not acceptable.
The loss does not just include monetary and emotional , but living in a community that "knows" , can be detrimental to my children daily.
I have become a recluse because of his actions. I have fear to face ,my old customer's because of the shame and disgust of his choices.
To find my own feet again aftr 25 year's is a huge effort and strain.
There is light at the end of the tunnel, by my own hand and my own efforts and actions. I thank God for the strenght and the wisdom and the support to walk me through it all. I have found strength in old friends and new friends and the idea of "pay ot forward" , is so close to my heart. I am grateful everyday. So many people have come forward with information, loving hands , help and advise.Hard on the pride to ask and accept the help.
It could have been worse, I know. BUT, it is still hard to have to deal with the "concrete boots" on my feet everyday.
By no choice of my own, someone changed the rules and the agenda with out sending me the "memo"!!!!
Well, if a man has no dignity to begin with then he won't have any when he moves on either. I feel your pain and can empathize. There are so many of us in the same boat; 25-30 years of giving your life to someone, just to have them throw it all back in your face. It's ok, you have friends around you who care. You need to come to my Friday night girls night, there's a few of us going through it. We have fun together almost every Friday. There are others who join us but we all have our own set of issues and we support one another and plan on doing what ever is necessary to drag each other through the difficult times we all face. If you're ever interested let me know!
ReplyDeleteAS a Friday Night Girl, I have to say that the merits of having others to share with are countless. Sadly, we are all in the same boat. Happily we are all in the same boat. It is bitter sweet. Sad because we have to experience these grievous actions and happily because we have each other.
ReplyDeleteThere is one concensus though! That regardless of the reason that a spouse can up and leave their partner of many years and cause so much devastation in their wake, they shoud not be allowed to get away with it without paying the consequences. Why women can go through Menopause and still retain their dignity while men go through MEN-O-PAWS and strip us of it is a crime in itself.
Chin up and seek solace in the support of fellow sufferers. Do not feel shame, it is not yours to bear. Stay true to your moral fibre and you will get through this and maybe even be thankful for it.
And that's all I have to say about that...for now.
I love you Suzanne! And that's not all I'm going to say about that.....stay tuned!
ReplyDeleteRhonda, YOU brought this up. Not us.
ReplyDeleteThis certainly looks like a man-bashing place in this comments section.
Okay then. I won't talk about it anymore either, okay?
xo
Yes you had better get out of this conversation!!! Quick before we surround you!
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